kinkyButterfly's Kink Resume

kinkyButterfly’s Kink Resume

About this post

I got the idea to complete my full BDSM resume from a femdom who shared hers with me. I realized my Kink List really was an incomplete view into my broader kink image and just how valuable it could be to have a written history and declaration of one’s kink status.

I recommend this to everyone! and that definitely includes newcomers even more so. Don’t be put off by thinking your resume won’t include much. We –all– start one step at a time. Even your “interests list” can be a part of your kink resume. Just get started and watch it grow over time.

 

kinkyButterfly’s Kink Resume

 

LIFE & LIFESTYLE IDENTITY

Female

Submissive

Slave

Bottom

Playmate

Masochist

Exhibitionist

Pansexual

Polyadventurous

PERSONAL OBJECTIVES

As a submissive, my objective is to continue in service fueled by sincere enthusiasm and passion with a focus on an increase in personal excellence.

PERSONAL MOTTO/SLOGAN

I am becoming what I am to be.” – my long-held motto since my earliest days in the lifestyle. I value expertise & experience in the lifestyle, and I also value growth. I believe that the moment one thinks they’ve learned all they need to know, their usefulness begins to decrease. I am a proponent of learning, adjusting, growing, and my journey in the lifestyle is happily ongoing… always a work in progress, and I am forever a student.

LIFESTYLE FOCI

Protection of core and foundational values of BDSM

Expression of and maintaining submissive self-worth

Fantasy vs real life practical application of D/s

Maintaining and increasing personal value in D/s via learning

POC in the lifestyle: visibility, prominence, acceptance and normality

SKILLS

  • Japanese bondage – Kinbaku (Shibari)
  • Practice bottom and rope bottom
  • Topping (including erotic humiliation, watersports, objectification and choking)
  • Scene preparation (tool/toy placement, hardware, room arrangement, lighting, sounds, scents)
  • Post-scene wrap up (cleaning up, returning living conditions to “normal”)
  • Protocol levels – low/casual to high/formal
  • Tool/toy handling – procurement, cleaning, maintenance, proper layout, storage (including rope bundling)
  • Creation of new tools and toys, plus tool/toy improvement via upcycling, recycling and remaking
  • Written contracts (including formal petitions for service and ownership)
  • Meal and drink service (from tea to libation)
  • Personal assistant and management

EXPERIENCE

I have engaged in the lifestyle in some capacity since 1998 including the following roles: service submissive (domesticity, comfort, etc.), sensual/sexual submissive, sensual bottom, painslut masochist, demo bottom (rope, etc.), practice bottom (impact play, etc.), contractual slave (9 years and 1 year), property and switch (top). I have experience in serving in a low, medium and high protocol capacity, as well as 24/7, long-distance and live-in D/s dynamics.

Activities

Below is a non-exhaustive list of activities in which I have directly participated (if it’s on this list, I have done it or had it done to me):

  • Impact play with implements including, but definitely not limited to: floggers, canes, crops, paddles (leather, wooden, rubber, etc), whips, belts, straps
  • Impact play with the hands, specifically spanking and slapping (ass, thighs, pussy)
  • Bondage, light to heavy (rope, chain, bondage tape, clothing, wrist/ankle/thigh/thumb cuffs, bed systems, door systems, spreader bars, etc)
  • Predicament bondage
  • Hair bondage
  • Hair pulling
  • Collar and leash
  • Crawling (on command, via pulling, etc)
  • Orgasm control – by force and/or denial, including edging (via voice, touch, magic wand, etc)
  • Sensory deprivation (sight, touch, hearing via masks, music, etc)
  • Anal/ass play
  • Anal hook
  • Body worship (including hands & feet, massages)
  • Humiliation, erotic humiliation
  • Fisting (vaginal)
  • Slapping (face and body)
  • Choking and various other forms of breath play
  • Bastinado
  • Biting (being bitten)
  • Gags (bit, rope, cloth, ball, bondage tape)
  • Hoods (open-face & full head)
  • Collars (formal, casual and play; leather, chain, chrome and cloth)
  • Tails (full buttplug fox tail wearing for short and extended times)
  • Terror play including knife play, water play (waterboarding, showering), interrogations, etc.
  • Sensation play (electroplay), including: Violet wand, Twilight wand, TENS unit, fly zapper
  • Sensation play (temperature), including: hot wax, figging, ice (including ice dildo making and usage), spicy/stinging rubs, essential oils, fire play
  • Sensation play (sharps), including: Wartenberg wheel, metal claws, Vampire gloves, knives/swords
  • Resistance play/FSRP (forced sex role-play aka rape play)
  • Role-play – eg, rough play as currency scene, etc; animal role-play (puppy play)
  • Functional objectification (use as various types of furniture, etc)
  • Sexual objectification (used as a sexual being)
  • Discipline & punishment
  • Prostate massage & milking
  • Bootblacking
  • Shaving (head/face/pubes), foot care & other intimate body care
  • Clamps (including clover, nipple-to-clit, clothespins, chopsticks, etc.)
  • Marking – temporary such as bruising to longer-lasting like scarification (cellpopping, specifically)
  • GS/WS (golden showers/watersports – taste, touch, smell)
  • Bladder/bathroom denial & control
  • Multiples (sexual) – threesomes (3 MMF, 2 MFF)
  • Multiples (S&M) – co-topping, receiving (from commands to impact play – dual flogging, etc. – to sexual acts)
  • Multiples (S&M) – co-topping, giving (topping assistance given to 2 Dommes)
  • Submissive/slave kneeling (et al) positions
  • Anonymous play
  • 50’s style household
  • Adult toys (suction bulb, insertables, etc.)
  • Large furniture (St. Andrew’s cross, wooden pony, stockade, spanking bench, kneeling bench, massage table, etc)
  • Suspension (ceiling hook/overhead systems)
  • Voyeurism & exhibitionism
  • Public play within the scope of kink (dungeons, play parties, videoing)
  • Pictures and video production (scene capturing)
  • Meal and drink service
  • Verbal commands
  • Physical commands (motion, signal, hand)
  • Written commands
  • Journaling (kink-related like scene retelling, task completion, etc)
  • Furniture privileges (privilege of furniture use and use of other conveniences)
  • Witnessed pony play (complete pony girl show)

LIMITS

My limits list is located here: Evolution of My Kink List.

WISHLIST

  • Fire play, specifically florentine fire flogging
  • Abduction/kidnapping
  • Needle play

EXTENDED BACKGROUND to CURRENT

I officially entered the realm of kink in 1998 (maybe 99′) via online BDSM-specific chat rooms at a site called Chatropolis. I immediately ventured out by researching facets of the lifestyle. My second earliest learning resource was a website called The Castle Realm (after which I’ve named my website, The Kink Realm), which served as a fantastic kink newcomer reference point. I soon began to network with other kinky POC by attending Black lifestyle chats (some type, some voice) on AOL, Paltalk and Yahoo. I joined numerous Black groups online and ran my own as well for several years with 800+ members, holding a weekly voice chat with guests like Gloria Brame and Jay Wiseman for over 2 years. I also helped to establish a national POC kink event. My earliest favorite kinkster was (is) Viola Johnson.

I ventured into “real life” BDSM quickly with my then partner and subsequent play partners. I attended the Black Sensuality greet held by the Black Sensuality D/s and BDSM group at the Black Rose conference in 2001. I have attended munches of 3 groups in my state, seminars/training (bullwhipping, law enforcement safety and kink, etc) as well as dungeons/play parties. I have otherwise served and played in small groups and privately.

I currently run a BDSM resource website which houses over 100 articles I’ve written (plus guest contributions) called The Kink Realm. I also manage my Tumblr website where I have completed over 400 posts with hundreds of my kink and scene related pictures. I have also made (with my partners) 4 videos including 2 flogging, 1 caning and 1 spanking.

I coined the term “v-type” (a vanilla, non-kinky person) (2013).

I coined the term “inkspace” (similar to subspace, the euphoria post tattoo work) (2015).

I coined the term “exposure play” (commanded exposure with risk of being caught) (2015).

I coined the term “Downward-facing Dom” (a play on the yoga pose term) (2015).

I run the following kink projects:

Mentioned as a kink resource (both The Kink Realm and individually) in Marie Claire magazine article “Before You Try BDSM Read This…” Feb. 2015

I greatly enjoy mentoring others in the lifestyle, particularly newcomers and may be known for my quirky, off-brand, yet traditional, core-based D/s style.

RELEVANT LINKS

The Kink Realm – My BDSM resource site –http://www.thekinkrealm.com

Evolution of My Kink List – Extended kink list information, specifically my limits – http://www.thekinkrealm.com/kinky-revelations/evolution-of-my-kink-list/

kinkyButterfly.com (at Tumblr) – All (100’s of) my kinky pictures and videos – http://www.kinkybutterfly.com